Mr. Right is the man every woman wants to meet. He is elusive. Hard to find. And much harder to catch. The truth is if we ever found Mr. Right, we probably wouldn’t recognize him. I don’t even know what that means anymore.
Who exactly is Mr. Right?
Does he look any different than all the Mr. Wrong’s we meet? Will he walk right up to us and sweep us off our feet? Will there be an obvious neon “Pick me!” light floating above his head?
No. Of course not.
Mr. Right is as likely to be shopping in your grocery store or on the treadmill at your gym as he is hanging around the mountains or watching football at some local bar. The truth is he could be anywhere. Yet it is difficult to spot him, especially if you have really giving up on finding him.
Since it seems hard to find him, let’s look at the alternatives:
Mr. Right Now…
This is the guy who keeps asking you out for dates. He is totally into you, but you aren’t captivated by him. He may not be who you are looking for, but is sexy as hell. He is the life of the party and the envy of other men. Pretty dull personality, but looks like his abs have been Photoshopped. Eventually, after noticing all your girlfriends are getting boyfriends, you decide to hang onto him.
Why not? The holidays are coming. And of course you don’t want to be the last girl left standing alone on the sidelines. He treats you pretty good and he’s happy just to be with you. You might actually like him if he was even remotely interesting and talked about more than work and Family Guy. But you aren’t really dating him for quality conversation, are you?
Mr. Right Here…
This guy is handy. What I mean is he is convenient. He works in your office or lives in your apartment complex. He might be your friend’s kind neighbor who often drops by or the guy at the bank. You have seen him so many times, he blends into the background. Totally not your type, but kinda cute and makes you laugh.
He’s not assertive or pushy and has pretty much put you in the dreadful “friend zone.” He likes sports, but doesn’t obsess (or yell at the TV) and enjoys reading books (not ones with pictures or glossy ads either). Cheesy pick up lines and fart jokes are beneath him. Honestly, he’s so nice that you immediately think there must be something wrong with him. There’s not. He’s just a nice guy not trying too hard.
Mr. Right for Them…
“He’s so perfect for you!!” This is the one that everyone else seems to think is your Mr. Right, but you may have not even met. His photos are not promising either. This guy is the son of your parents’ friends who have been trying for years to get you together. He might be the college roommate of your coworker’s husband or your best friend’s cousin who lives in another state. They have all conspired several times over the years just so that you could meet him. Maybe you do someday and the meeting is pretty anti-climatic.
With so much pressure from everyone, you aren’t even sure if you truly like him or if you’re trying to please all the other people who think you would be perfect together.
Mr. Right But…
This guy’s got issues. Nothing outrageous, but enough for you to pause. The pause could be some sort of commitment avoidance thing on your part or a gut instinct. He could actually be perfect for you – your Mr. Right – but there is some glitch that you aren’t sure you can get past.
He might be recently divorced or a single father with two small children. You’re not even sure if you want children of your own and certainly not someone else’s children. Maybe he travels a lot for his job or is is a workaholic. He carries a little weight in the midsection or seems to drink just a little too much.
He could be a great guy, but he doesn’t exactly fit your fairytale story – instead of the tall, handsome prince, he’s short and prematurely balding.
Are any of these men in your life? The Almost Mr. Right. I bet at least one of them are.
Well where is Mr. Right?
Before you answer, “I don’t know,” take an honest second look at Mr. Right Now, Mr. Right Here, Mr. Right for Them or Mr. Right But. One of them could be your Mr. Right. Just waiting for you to see him for what he really is. Maybe.